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The Last Post

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The last chapter in Greg’s long story was completed today when he passed away peacefully at Benalla Hospital with Pauline and David by his side.

He woke early this morning with very restricted breathing and Pauline called an Ambulance to take him straight to Benalla Hospital. He arrived ‘unresponsive’ with barely any breath. He spent most of today in a peaceful sleepy state, unable to talk. He communicated a few simple ‘yes’ and ‘no’s’ along the way and a couple of kisses to Pauline.

A key moment in the day was when he asked to remove the oxygen mask for the final time. It was clear that he knew he was in the ‘home straight’ and was getting ready to pass over. He rallied at one point in the day, grabbing the overhead handle for one last struggle.

The last few hours were spent in a sleepy, snoring state as he took his last gasps. In the end his breathing simply and calmly ceased as the nurse rolled him on to his side.

In keeping with Greg’s request we felt it was important to let you all know asap. As we write this, we are all together as a family with his body at the hospital, playing a playlist of his favourite music including lots of Neil Diamond.

So many people have commented what a great legacy this blog has been for Greg to leave behind. Thanks for all your well wishes. More details will follow about the funeral service – likely to be held on Thursday or Friday.

Go in peace Greg – fly free from all your suffering.

May you open into a greater glory and may we meet again,

Lots of love from your loving and proud family,

Pauline, David, Lisa and Anthea.

Holding hands for the last time.

Written by Lee

20 September 2013 at 5:55 am

Border Mail tributes Greg Naylor

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The Border Mail have today produced a tribute article to Greg – read it here

This completes a trilogy of articles from the Border Mail about Greg’s journey with cancer and his blog. The family thanks the team at the Border Mail for their respectful coverage of his story.

The original article can be viewed here – My fight.com.

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HERE IS THE TEXT FROM TODAY’S ARTICLE BY ANTHONY BUNN:

Blogger dies after public battle

A GRANDFATHER who used an internet blog to chronicle his four-year fight against prostate cancer has died.

Greg Naylor succumbed to the disease at Benalla hospital after having given regular insights into his plight on Greg’s Legacy, a blog described as “specialising in the human experience of living with prostate cancer — warts and all”.

“The blogging came naturally. It helped me keep going, it has helped tackle this thing head on,” Mr Naylor told The Border Mail in March.

His son David Naylor said yesterday his father had remained at his Euroa home, using bottled oxygen to help his breathing for the last three months, before he went to Benalla hospital last Monday and died about 5.30pm that day.

At the time of his diagnosis in 2008, Mr Naylor was given six months to live but he fought, reaching remission before surviving a number of near-fatal episodes to mark his 70th birthday in June.

“He’s had a resilience and there was something about him that meant he wouldn’t give up,” David Naylor said.

“In April this year he was sick and we literally went and said our goodbyes and he lived on.”

David Naylor said his father would hope the legacy of his blog would be to encourage terminally-ill patients to question their treatment.

“He respected the medical system but he felt it was a bit disempowering and he felt he empowered himself on the net, he was able to look for plan Bs and plan Cs,” Mr Naylor said.

“In the end his doctor was a straight talker but he found other doctors careful in what they would say.”

Mr Naylor said his father had used the blog as a catalyst to discuss experiences.

“The blog helped legitimise his journey and helped him talk about it openly,” he said.

“Particularly for a man of his era, they are very stoic and find it hard to talk about death and what they are going through.”

Greg Naylor was farewelled at a funeral at Euroa on Friday with one of the mourners Lee Gallagher, a prostate cancer sufferer from Queensland who came to know the former King Valley resident through his blog.

Mr Naylor is survived his wife Pauline, children David, Lisa and Anthea and seven grandchildren.

Written by David Naylor

2 October 2012 at 6:22 pm

Posted in David Naylor, PERSONAL

Greg’s Funeral details

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Here are details for Greg’s funeral service:

Funeral Prayers will be held at St John’s Catholic Church, Kirkland Avenue, Euroa on Friday September 28th commencing at 10.30am.
This will be followed by light refreshments at the St John’s Hall next door.
The burial will take place at the Whitfield Cemetery, Whitfield commencing at 2.30pm.

St John’s, Euroa

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25 September 2012 at 4:22 pm

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The Last Post

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The last chapter in Greg’s long story was completed today when he passed away peacefully at Benalla Hospital with Pauline and David by his side.

He woke early this morning with very restricted breathing and Pauline called an Ambulance to take him straight to Benalla Hospital. He arrived ‘unresponsive’ with barely any breath. He spent most of today in a peaceful sleepy state, unable to talk. He communicated a few simple ‘yes’ and ‘no’s’ along the way and a couple of kisses to Pauline.

A key moment in the day was when he asked to remove the oxygen mask for the final time. It was clear that he knew he was in the ‘home straight’ and was getting ready to pass over. He rallied at one point in the day, grabbing the overhead handle for one last struggle.

The last few hours were spent in a sleepy, snoring state as he took his last gasps. In the end his breathing simply and calmly ceased as the nurse rolled him on to his side.

In keeping with Greg’s request we felt it was important to let you all know asap. As we write this, we are all together as a family with his body at the hospital, playing a playlist of his favourite music including lots of Neil Diamond.

So many people have commented what a great legacy this blog has been for Greg to leave behind. Thanks for all your well wishes. More details will follow about the funeral service – likely to be held on Thursday or Friday.

Go in peace Greg – fly free from all your suffering.

May you open into a greater glory and may we meet again,

Lots of love from your loving and proud family,

Pauline, David, Lisa and Anthea.

Holding hands for the last time.

 

Written by David Naylor

24 September 2012 at 8:26 pm

Posted in David Naylor, DEATH

There is no defeat in dying – a son’s perspective

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Skyping Dad in June this year.

As Greg’s son it has been both humbling and inspiring to witness his journey these last few years. He has always said that “I have never died before.” As a believer in reincarnation I have always doubted that statement, but I have not argued with him – who am I to know?

It’s been over 4 years since the doctors first estimated he would live for only 2-3 years. In that time I have seen dad in many states of pain, discomfort, balance, not knowing, knowing, frustration, gratitude and grace.

From the beginning he has taken a very ‘realist’ view, acknowledging the diagnosis and doing his best to find out whatever he could to minimise the pain and reduce the chance of the cancer spreading. Although Dad’s default is to trust the medical system, he has certainly not taken it at face value. He has kept his doctors honest by constantly seeking to understand the assumptions behind their advice, and to understand the limits of their “permitted” offering.

Fortunately he has developed a good relationship with his doctor, Chris, who has come to learn how Dad likes a “no bullshit” approach.

There are two things that Dad is sick and tired of hearing:

The first is a necessary bureaucratic question: “What is your date of birth?” Even when in hospital for days on end with the same nurses, they are required by law to ask this question before administering any treatment.

The second is in response to Dad’s persistent need to know what will happen next whenever a new treatment is offered. Typically the answer is “everyone is different so we will monitor you closely and find out how it goes.” I know this has frustrated Dad, but I do believe he has come to see the truth in this statement, as evidenced by the random nature of his own body’s response to various treatments. It has been a very up and down journey with symptoms that are sometimes predictable, and often erratic. Watching him has helped me appreciate what a complex system the body really is, and how interrelated are it’s various components. One medicine reduces pain, but increases constipation. The constipation treatment has other side-effects, and so on.

Until his illness, Dad was not a big fan of alternative medicines or a fanatic of healthy foods. Over the years I have seen him experiment with different medicines and foods, applying his mindset to test their efficacy. His logic is straight forward and honest – if it works, he uses it until it doesn’t. If it doesn’t work, he gradually raises or lowers the dosage until it does work. I have been impressed with Dad’s willingness to try all options – usually doing some internet-based research first. He has created an online community of friends with whom he generously shares his knowledge including the pros and cons of different treatments.

It is a blessing that as a family we have all been able to talk openly to him along the way about his treatment and about the reality that our time with him is coming to an end. I have heard of many other cases where people find it hard to talk about the hard facts, and even where sons and daughters aren’t even told their parent is ill until the last few weeks.

Thankfully Dad has been very up-front and we have been able to savour these last few years, reminisce and connect warmly with him through the ups and downs. I am thankful that his mind has remained very astute and his trademark warmth and sociable spirit has endured.

Many a time I have visited him and found him in better spirits than I would have imagined, given his condition. Pauline reminds me, however, that he does perk up around company and that he usually has a much lower energy the day after such a visit.

Dad has a philosophical approach to dying. Clearly he wants to live as long as he can, and at the same time has made a big effort to complete his affairs in this life – both practical and emotional. One of the blessings of a terminal diagnosis is that it gives everyone time to get prepared for the inevitable parting, to spend quality time together and reminisce, share, laugh and cry together. Although I will miss Dad dearly when he is gone, I will be forever grateful that we have spent this time together and will treasure many fond memories.

Dad and I have always had rich conversation about all manner of things from the personal, political to the philosophical and spiritual. We have not always agreed, but have held a mutual respect for the opportunity to be challenged about how we think about the world

In the early days of his diagnosis I was heartened by Dad’s accounts of his dreams that recounted direct contact with past loved ones who had died, in particular, Cheryl. Dad has always been a rationalist with little interest in things he has no direct proof of, like afterlife and spirit-worlds. Yet he has kept an open-mind and I believe his illness and the timing of these dreams has given him some evidence that as Shakespeare said “there is more in this life, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.”

I know that he dearly loves me, and if there is an afterlife, will be there in the wings for me. Back in April when he nearly died in hospital, we did in fact say what we thought were our last goodbyes one evening – the morning after which we awoke to find he done a life-saving poo! Since that time I have felt a grace surround the family as his body gradually slows down and we are grateful for whatever time we have left with Dad.

I cannot imagine how it must be to live in Dad or Pauline’s shoes, where every day, every hour, and lately every minute is a challenge. I am impressed with their patience and resilience to continually face each day. I know there are many difficult times along the way, but I have not seen Dad depressed or angry beyond what is reasonable for someone in his condition.

Dad’s belief has always been that children continue to evolve the thinking of their parents. Dad, I will be proud to carry on your tradition of critical thinking that is infused with a big heart that genuinely cares for others and for the future state of the world.

I truly admire your fighting spirit and I trust that you will leave this body at exactly the right time. There is no defeat in dying. You have put up a good fight Dad, of which victory is not about surviving, but about embracing the process of life and death that has it’s own timeframe for all of us.

I will always love you and carry your love for me with me for the rest of my life. Perhaps I’ll see you on the flipside – if there is an afterlife afterall!

Written by David Naylor

26 August 2012 at 11:28 am

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